You are not seeing situations objectively. Nobody is. Every person on this earth interprets everything through a lens that is 100% unique to them, and until you understand that your lens is not the same as everyone else's, you will keep having the same misunderstandings and wondering why. You know the feeling. Something happens in a conversation, or someone says something, or somebody looks at you a certain kind of way, and you are absolutely convinced you know what it meant.